2nd part of: What kind of woman do I strive to be?

In the frustrated search for prince charming, or princess charming, we forget what is the ultimate purpose that we were created for which is: To love one another , and get prepared to live eternal life beside our creator. And so many will say: Oh no! that thought is for church fanatics, what I really care for is to have a real castle with a butler and thousands of maids, when I die I’see what I can do about that. Or something way more realistic might be something like: I want everybody to ENVY me, the most chic decorated house, the latest and fanciest car, the most expensive schools for my kids.... oh! and of course huge birthday parties (or any other celebration) with stratospheric costs to show people that my children deserve only the very best.

And all that frustration, all that invested in houses, cars, parties ... What for?... Well, because we think that the life’s success of any woman and even more the success of a man relies in how many material things they have, and this belief is created by society, but after all society is conformed to by US meaning, that we are the ones spreading that idea: We believe for a fact that the most successful woman is the one who found “the one” and got married young, had a spectacular wedding of 500 guests (small weddings in Mexico by the way , are those among 150 or less) , has a huge house to come back after the honeymoon and when it comes to money there is not a “lack” of anything.

I do agree that our economic situation is something to be proud of , and why not if this is a reward of all our efforts and achievements , and there sure is a reason to show off a little and brag about it, but we give to those things the biggest Importance above all. So I keep asking of us and all that people who think that there aren’t unreachable things for them, when it comes to spirituality, Don’t we “lack” of anything either?, In our personal relationships, are we reciprocated, loved and not taken for granted by our partners? Is there really love in their lives or is just a masquerade for others to see?. What a shame that in the search for happiness we believe that the fundamentals of it are in what is beautiful to the eye, on things that won’t last, or in different circumstances we base our happiness in having a partner. How sad that we not only believe it but that we also spread the word among those who surround us.

Well I object!. I object to the belief that my success in life relies on material things, or in my job position or in the fact that I’m about to get married. To this day I have calculated my successes based on how many people I’ve made happy, in how many people I’ve given my support or that I’ve touched their hearts with my words; I am calculating my success in life based on the thousand times that I got up from my failures, based on my positive way to live life, and most of all in the fact that I never lost hope in finding this wonderful man who is beside me despite how many times I got hurt in the past.

And I do ask that whoever reads this and identifies with it. Don’t you think is time to change those ideas writen above?. The only way to do so is to start with yourself and be the example. If you want this world to be more human, and a best place to live for yourself , your family, your children, then we need to change from within, from the core, from ourselves. Politicians are not the only ones that create chaos, it is not only society that makes us be more depressed; let’s stop blaming everyone else and instead keep in our minds what someone once said : “ Happiness is not a goal but a way to walk in life’s path”. Let’s make sure to understand that the most valuable assets that a person can have are their memories, and the most important of all: we are here to find our way to eternal life to rejoice with our creator, where all the societally-defined humanity will be left behind.

So let’s change that way of thinking and make sure that we induce others to :

1. Have marriages which base their children’s upbringing on being truthful and honest to themselves and to the society by being a good example. (just because your spouse never found out you cheated, it doesn’t mean that no else has, therefore you are not being a good example to your kids)

2. Being happy single women who are proud to be so, proud to be free to dedicate their lives to do many things for others and for themselves, single women with the freedom to leave a legacy. 3. Families striving every day to be better, and to be prepared for when Jesus comes back by accumulating VIRTUES not cars or real estate.

4. Have Individuals focused on fighting their way out of vices or bad habits instead of passing them on to their children.

5. And finally, to become in conscious of knowing that at the end of this life the only thing you’ll take with you is that which is inside yourself.

So, now you are the only one with the right to choose: What kind of woman do you strive to be.

*Dedicated with all my heart to all those wonderful, independent and beautiful woman that for some reason in this life, they are still happily single ;)